When you can’t say your piece, how can you make a difference?
By now you’re probably familiar with the phrase “never say never,” a phrase that seems to have been applied to everyone from former Presidents Jimmy Carter to President Donald Trump to former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton to former House Speaker Newt Gingrich.
For many, the phrase encapsulates the idea that it’s impossible to change the world.
A number of studies have found that it is indeed impossible to be the most effective person or organization on the planet, and the phrase has been invoked to discredit efforts to change behavior.
The New York Times’ own research, for example, found that, while many people who say they believe in change, “do not see themselves changing the world, they often feel like they are doing something good by showing up at meetings to talk about change.”
In other words, the more often people use the phrase, the less likely they are to change their behavior.
Despite the general public’s disdain for “never saying never,” studies have shown that it can actually work, particularly when it comes to getting people to take action.
As it turns out, a number of psychologists and social psychologists have developed a list of techniques that can help make change a more effective and positive experience for people.
For example, some of these techniques include: 1.
Setting goals and working toward them 2.
Using a list, a calendar, and a reminder 3.
Learning from others 4.
Using constructive criticism, as opposed to harsh criticism or criticism that’s harsh enough that people feel they have to change themselves to feel better 5.
Talking about the change that you want to make 6.
Changing the way you interact with others to feel less alone or isolated 7.
Changing your behavior to make yourself feel more in control of your life and life decisions 8.
Using mindfulness to keep yourself and others in focus during stressful situations (like a crisis) 9.
Changing how you respond to negative experiences (like having someone walk up to you and threaten to hurt you) 10.
Developing an awareness of the power of positive thinking and acting on it 11.
Creating a list to track your progress 12.
Develop a process for monitoring your progress and changing your behavior (or, if you’re feeling lazy, a process to keep track of what you’re doing and then stop it) 13.
Keeping a list or journal for reminders of the positive changes you want, the positive impact that you’re having, and your goals 14.
Keeping track of your progress by tracking your emotions, which can help you understand your feelings and thoughts 15.
Identifying and reducing the negative influence of negative people and situations in your life 16.
Develop an emotional and behavioral change plan for each of your areas of focus 17.
Develop ways to practice and practice and then improve your skills, so that you can continue to improve 18.
Develop strategies to be a more compassionate person in all areas of your relationship with others 19.
Practice mindfulness and gratitude for the good things you’re seeing in the world 20.
Find a personal growth coach to help you get better at what you love, like exercising or walking to work or to school, reading a book, or going to yoga or meditation 21.
Create a calendar to keep an eye on your progress, and write down a list for each area of your day to make it easier to track.
Practice positive reinforcement and positive praise, even when they’re not appropriate 23.
Have a list with the names of people you know that you respect 24.
Have friends, family, and other people in your social circle that you know you can trust and respect 25.
Be aware of your surroundings and know that others are going to notice you and respond to you in ways that will make you feel more safe and comfortable 26.
Have someone to talk to that you trust that will help you stay in control 27.
Make a list on your phone of people that you feel safe and at ease with that you will need in the future 28.
Make an exercise routine that involves talking to yourself in your head.
Develop and maintain a routine that helps you keep yourself calm and focused.
Develop, keep, and maintain healthy eating habits, and be sure to monitor your eating habits to keep them from getting worse 31.
Make time to reflect and ask yourself questions to keep you on track with your goals 32.
Create lists to remember to remind yourself of what’s important, and remind yourself when things get hard or when you want a little help 33.
Create and keep a list where you can write down any thoughts that have bothered you recently, and have a place to write down those thoughts and ask for support if they need it 34.
Use positive reinforcement, such as positive praise or positive reinforcement to encourage good behavior.
Develop the skills and practices of self-compassion, so you can work to change how you interact and think.
Develop tools and techniques for working with others, such and exercise and meditation.
Develop your personal growth plan.
Get to know your body,